sòng shén me qù bù qù gěi duō shǎo zuì hǎo wèn shú xī zhè jiā rén de péng yǒu

送什么、去不去、给多少，最好问熟悉这家人的朋友。

What to give, whether to go, how much to give — it's best to ask a friend who knows the family well.