zuì hǎo de bàn fǎ bú shì yī kāi shǐ jiù jiǎng dà dào lǐ ér shì bǎ xiǎo shì shuō qīng chǔ zhè ge jià zi kě yǐ fàng wǒ de bēi zi ma

最好的办法不是一开始就讲大道理，而是把小事说清楚：“这个架子可以放我的杯子吗？

The best approach is not to start with big principles, but to clarify small matters: 'Can this shelf hold my cup?'